My Favorite Monster
I want to tell you about a delusion I hold near and dear to my heart.
This delusion is one of my (and probably your) greatest energies standing in the way of a trusting relationship to money but also just having money.
Presenting…
the delusion of thinking you know what other people should be doing.
In this case, the delusion of thinking you know what other people should or shouldn’t be doing with money.
You know… that little monster inside of you. Your inner judgey-wudgey. The part of you who is just clearly right (like, all the time).
Contrast, tension, and difficulty can bring you greater awareness of what is right for you and what is wrong for you. We know this.
But when you hang out exclusively in “what other people should be…" with money, it’s usually a one-way trip to resistance (of money).
I have had this experience countless times and encountered many more who have as well. We see something that triggers us around money, or perhaps underneath that trigger we plainly disagree with — and don’t know how to keep any separation from that thing.
Resistance to + lack of separation from the thing we’re resisting = becoming resistance.
Resistance in the aura doesn’t have nuance. Our aura is not running resistance to this one subtle specific part of the way this person did that. It’s vibrating ~ resistance ~ to this thing but, more importantly, to money.
This is why I wrote this article.
And why, in Money Medicine, there is such a significant emphasis on learning how to engage our resistance directly and skillfully. Because resistance around money, and in this case — other people’s money experiences, is bountiful.
There is freedom in recognizing that you don’t truly know what others should be doing. In acknowledging that many people doing things you disagree with are actually following their dharma. And that those who aren’t your job. (A job that will pay you zilch.)
In this space of freedom, your practice becomes one of noticing Life as you find it and allowing yourself to continuously impact and be impacted by it all.
Contrast and subsequent resistance can bring you deeper into your value system and authentic desires if you know how to work it.
But, and I say this more to myself than anyone else, you can release the weight of thinking you know what other people should be doing and just let humans keep on humaning.
You can put down the boulder of responsibility for the world. And, in that release, I’m sure you’ll find that at least some of this weight had more to do with you and your personal life story than what the world is doing out there.
This is what we do in Money Medicine, again and again and again.
I want to facilitate spaces where the teachings and energies get to become uniquely yours and authentically embodied. Where you can come to your own conclusions, some of which will not agree with mine.
And that’s… great. Because ultimately, this is your relationship to money and all of Life.
And damn, let’s make it a good one, a rich one, a life-giving one — shall we?
The money-freedom (and general freedom) you seek lives in an elegant owning of your uniqueness and a total surrender into the continuous impact interdependence has on said uniqueness.
